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DATING
Great Tips For A Safe Online Dating
Experience
by Ann Bendis
Dating can be scary no matter how or where you meet. Maybe
he hasn't shaved in five years. Perhaps, she has a reputation
as the Black Widow after never being called back for a
second date. Any date is a toss up. Dating is sort of
how Forrest Gump described life; it's like a box of chocolates
because you never know what you're going to get.
Because of the anonymity of online dating, it can be trickier
than conventional dating. Appearances and descriptions
can be misleading, and unfortunately in other cases, just
downright deceiving. By following a few tips, online daters
can successfully experience safe dates and avoid being
a guest on one of those "disastrous internet dating"
talk shows.
Tip #1: Trust your instincts and use common sense. If
this person rubs you the wrong way via email, imagine
how he or she will make you feel in person. Don't do anything
that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Tip #2: Enjoy your anonymity online. Using your dating
service's secure messaging system, you can communicate
without giving out personal information until you feel
comfortable. The last thing you need is your very own
email stalker.
Tip #3: Be Realistic. Even most reality television shows
don't have happy endings these days. Just because this
person sounds like the perfect fit, it doesn't mean that
you should start ordering the wedding invitations just
yet. You have to read a book before you can give a real
summary. This date might not be your last first date.
If it doesn't lead to a second date, move on to the next
person on your list.
Tip #4: In case you've been stranded on a deserted island
for the past thirty years and fail to realize that unfortunately
there are some cruel and sick people in this world, this
message needs to be heard. First Dates Should Be in Public!
Never ever agree to meet at the other person's place or
to pick them up. Also, be sure and let a friend or family
member know your plans for the evening. Stay alert on
the first date. If you must have an alcoholic beverage,
have only one and do not leave your drink unattended.
Tip #5: Try meeting during the day, perhaps on your lunch
break. If the date isn't going as planned, you have a
perfect reason to cut the outing short.
Tip #6: Red Flags. As in all traffic signs, red means
stop. Don't ignore things that leap out at you about the
person. These things are warning signs and include such
behaviors:
a) Refuses to answer your questions directly. Is the person
hiding something?
b) Makes disrespectful comments about others. How will
the person describe you?
c) Inconsistent information which doesn't match prior
information from profile, chat, emails, and phone calls.
Liar! Liar! Pants on Fire.
d) Avoids phone contact. Why? Marriage?
If the fates are kind, then you will only have pleasant
dates as a result of your online matching, but just in
case, it's always good to be prepared.
About the Author
Ann Bendis writes about online dating and relationships
at http://www.singleattractions.com |
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